We believe that the solution to sex addiction must include counseling. Why? Because the real problem is not the addiction to sex, the addiction is a false "solution" that eventually became a problem. The real problem is past unresolved emotional trauma that continues to cause problems and pain in the addict’s life.
In order to cope and deal with the pain caused by past trauma, the sex addict has "turned off" his or her real emotions because these emotions are too overwhelming. They use sex as a way to suppress and medicate the past emotional abuse and the memories associated with the abuse. Often, the sex addict is unable see how their family system growing up was destructive or abusive. A specialized trained sex addiction counselor can slowly guide you through this painful and bewildering process.
Counseling addresses the root cause of sex addiction, which is unresolved emotional trauma that kept you from connecting with other people. It is this trauma that needs to be healed in order for you to regain your freedom from sex addiction. Our counseling focuses on helping you learn how to cope with life and relationships without fleeing into the imaginary world of sex. By healing your emotional wounds and acknowledging your needs, you will relearn how to determine fact from fiction and will avoid being tricked into accepting false love.
If married, nearly all spouses or partners of sex addicts are traumatized by the lies, deception, and unhealthy sexual behavior. Spouses and partners benefit from receiving counseling as well. Their wounds need to be addressed, and generally couples therapy is needed in addition to therapy for the addict. Click here to review information for the spouse or partner of a sex addict and the type of support Waterstone Counseling Center provides.
Our sex addiction therapists create a safe environment that is confidential and allows you to feel comfortable talking about your struggle to find freedom from sex or porn addictions. Our counselors believe that the keys to recovery include education, trauma resolution, connecting to other recovering addicts, accountability, and learning to develop balance in all areas of your life. Our treatment plan has three phases that our counselors use to help the porn addict recover and are as followed:
Phase 1 Treatment
• Weekly Individual Therapy
• Assessment and Treatment Plan
• Psycho-education of Sexual Addiction
• Weekly Sex Addiction Counseling Group
• Facing the Shadow workbook
• Recovery and Relapse Prevention Plan
• Address health and legal issues
Phase II Treatment
• Attend 12-Step SA Group
• Agree on abstinence definition
• Work Recovery Plan
• 3- 6 month period of abstinence
• Group Counseling Work Presentations
Phase III Treatment
• Complete step 1 of 12-steps
• Developmental & Family-of-origin issues
• Experientially process past trauma and shame
• Multiple addiction assessment (Drugs, Alcohol, Work, etc.)
• Partner and family involvement
• Spiritual Issues
• Career Issues
The good news is that the problem of sex addiction can be treated in less time than it took to create the problem. However, commitment to the process of healing from sex addiction is required. Without commitment results may be temporary and a relapse into the life sexual addiction is likely. Your commitment to the process of healing from sex addiction will be rewarded by the continually lessening urge to act out. Over time, it will become easier to develop more healthy ways to manage the stresses of life.
Recovery requires the addict to get into a regular pattern of recovery work. The addict is fighting to change many years of conditioned behavior and recovery will not occur overnight or even over a couple of weeks. Sex addiction recovery is a marathon, not a sprint!
There are two ways to setup an appointment with a counselor:
1) Fill out the Contact Form and Sean will call you with 24-hours; 2) Call the office at (479) 202-6300.